Self Care is not Selfish

A mom’s guide to knowing the difference and getting what you really need

Self care should be self explanatory and a simple concept and idea, easy to describe if not easy to implement.

However, once marketing genius’s (I do not say this with disdain, they are a very intelligent bunch) get a hold of a popular idea, they quickly dilute it by claiming every product fills the need.

Self care is responsible and grown-up. It includes things like moving your body, eating healthy, doing things you love, and learning. It also includes spending time with the people you love. Self care is not a me vs. those people who need me battle. It is just a balance. Doing all of the above.

Selfishness is immature and childish. It includes things like sitting on your ass all day because you don’t want to get up. Eating junk food all day because it is easy. Being so absorbed in yourself you either forget to spend time with your loved ones, or you spend very low-quality time, focusing on something other than the people you are with and the activity you are doing together. Selfishness is not doing the things you love, but instead, the things that are the easiest to become addicted too. You can get the same dopamine hit from the things you love as you can from addictions. But getting it from the things you love usually takes more effort and self-discipline (i.e. work). Being selfish is deciding you know enough and don’t have the need to learn more. Or pretending to learn my scrolling the news of Twitter or Facebook…